What do you say to the girl with cuts on her arms? I mean, I want to walk over and open a conversation, see if she is alright, but I really don't know what to say. And its not like I am intimidated or unwilling to talk about but rather that I really don't know what to say...

All to often we forget how much damage can be derived from simple advice: how easy it is for a child to feel chastised, ostracized, and to pull further away... So much harm can be done by assuming that we know what to say. At least I know that, but I really wish I was trained better... so for now i'll just keep my mouth shut and wait for her to open hers.